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Pastoral and Wellbeing

We value students’ happiness and mental wellbeing extremely highly and joy is a key focus in all that we do. We embody this in everything: in lessons, co-curricular activities and form time. However, we know that things aren’t always easy as students navigate through teenage years, so we have wonderful support in place if things aren’t going quite right.

Tutors are the first port of call if a student is struggling – they see their tutees every day and can identify changes quickly. Always available for a one-to-one chat, tutors are the key person in each student’s daily life, supported by committed Heads of Year and the Director of Sixth Form.

There is an open door policy at the Wellbeing Hub, where students have access to the school nurses, the counsellor, and the chaplain. We can arrange wellbeing appointments, or counselling sessions dependent on need, with the aim of supporting students through any difficult periods of life.

Perhaps the greatest sense of wellbeing in teenage years comes from the group of friends you make. We pride ourselves on our warm, friendly Common Room where everyone is always welcome. We have no doubt that you will find a spot where you feel comfy and at ease with the company around you, and we have every faith that you will make friends for life in your two years with us.

Mental Health First Aid

As part of our commitment to wellbeing, we train between 20-30 Lower VI students each year as Mental Health First Aiders. There is always a huge amount of interest in this course, and by ensuring that our students are well-versed in first aid they can support each other, and alert staff if they have concerns about friends or peers.


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  • Gateway Highlights
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    This week’s Abbey Gateway is packed with exciting stories from across the Abbey community, from Junior School to Alumnae! Some of our Sixth Formers took the stage to introduce guest speakers at […]

  • Not Everything That Counts Can Be Counted
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    We are by nature, and quite rightly, very proud of the quantifiable elements of much of what we achieve. We celebrate numbers, whether that’s a Couch to 5k target met, a winning score in a sporting […]

  • Raising of The Eco Schools flag
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    Last week, our incredible Junior School Eco Council proudly raised their Eco Schools flag for everyone to see! Watch the raising of the Flag here They were recently awarded the prestigious […]

  • Cooking Masterclass
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    Mrs Mair, our brilliant Head of Food and Nutrition, hosted an incredible Cooking Masterclass last Saturday. Parents and daughters teamed up to create delicious homemade pasta, indulge in a rich, […]

  • Henley Literary Festival
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    Gabby Logan On Sunday, September 29, Sports Captains Naiya and Poppy had the opportunity to attend a talk by Gabby Logan at the Henley Literary Festival. The famous sports broadcaster and presenter […]

  • Food and Nutrition
    by Together Abbey on 4 October 2024

    Our Upper V food groups are busy with their GCSE coursework, coming towards the end of their first piece at the end of this half term.  We wanted to show you the wonderful dishes they made as part […]

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Adventure Zone at The Abbey Junior School on 12 October:

Visit the Famous Five escape room - and help the five solve the mystery! Use your puzzle-solving and treasure-hunting skills to find the culprit. 

To book your place, visit http://theabbey.co.uk/events/
At the wonderful Independent Schools of the Year 2024 awards ceremony in London last night, The Abbey was named Independent Girls’ School of the Year 2024. The Chair of Judges, Dr Helen Wright, was effusive in her praise. She said that judges were unanimous; that The Abbey is a bold and outward-looking school that does good in the world and achieves outstanding outcomes; and that everything The Abbey does is full of joy.

Will le Fleming, Head of The Abbey commented, “We are so pleased about the recognition the school has received over recent years. We were shortlisted for two years in a row for the best prep school in the country by the TES, in 2023 and 2024. We won the Pride of Reading School award and Independent School of the Year for Sporting Achievement in 2023 and Muddy Stiletto’s Award for Sporting Passion in 2024.

“This award takes that recognition to the next level. It is the pre-eminent national award in girls’ education, open to every independent school in the country. It is the highest accolade we could have received.

“We know how important it is, now more than ever, to provide outstanding value to every student and every family. There could be no warmer, finer nor more deserved accolade for the tireless work of every single member of staff across this wonderful school.”
Adventure Zone at The Abbey Junior School on 12 October!

Do you like Harry Potter? Then prepare for an enchanting adventure at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry! Join Harry Potter and your fellow young wizards as you dive into the magical world of potions and spells. Get your wand ready, unleash your creativity, and let the magic unfold!

To book your place, visit http://theabbey.co.uk/events/
Just over a week to register for a place in our Year 7 2025 - 2026 at The Abbey! 

Complete a registration form by the 16 October 2024, the link is in our bio.

We look forward to welcoming you into our Senior school!

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Did someone say “Samba time”?

Our #UpperII students had a rhythm-filled day dancing and singing - who knew school could have such a great beat?

#AbbeyDance #AbbeyJuniors
A huge congratulations to Danai and Anna!

A couple of weeks ago, Danai and Anna took part in the "Walk for the Wards" charity event, set against the beautiful backdrop of the Mapledurham Estate.

Joined by their families and Anna’s dog, Lady, they proudly completed the 5km walk, raising funds for The Buscot Ward at the Royal Berkshire Hospital (RBH). Their heartfelt motivation truly reflected our core value of kindness, as they selflessly gave back to the hospital that provides vital care to so many families.

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Just four places left! 

Are you ready to tackle #TheAdventureZone at The Abbey Juniors this Saturday morning? If so, hurry and register your place soon, as only a few spaces remain.

Book your place at http://theabbey.co.uk/events/
We’re just one hour away from today’s #AbbeyFlavoursEvent: Science and Art showcase! 

Our students can hardly contain their excitement! Here’s a sneak peek of what to look forward to this evening.

#AbbeyEvent
Happy World Teachers' Day!

At The Abbey, we are more than just a school—we are a family. Whether you're a current student or part of our cherished @theabbeyalumnae, you know how truly remarkable and vital our teachers are. 

Today, we celebrate their dedication, passion, and the lasting impact they make on all our lives.

Wishing all teachers a wonderful World Teachers' Day!
 
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This week’s #AbbeyConnected is titled Not Everything That Counts Can Be Counted by Dawn Bellamy.

To read in full head on over to the link in our bio!
Update from Juniper Hall from our #UpperII!

They’ve had a fantastic time crafting their own creeds for their dorms! We can’t wait to see what creative adventures await them for the rest of their trip.

#AbbeyJuniors
We just had to share these stunning dresses worn by our Senior students in celebration of Abbey Languages Day last week!

Can you guess where each dress is from?

#AbbeyLanguages #AbbeySeniors

What If…?

One of the highlights of the academic year in the Senior School is always ‘Curiosity Week’, which took place earlier this year.

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Examinations

The Senior School is in full examination-battle mode! The IB exams were the frontline, two year groups have just received results from internal exams, two year groups are on study leave, and we have…

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We Are Family

‘Be the change you wish to see in the world’ and ‘If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you’ are just two of many phrases we hear in relation to change as a positive driver.

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Shifting Sands

‘Be the change you wish to see in the world’ and ‘If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you’ are just two of many phrases we hear in relation to change as a positive driver.

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Teaching and Learning

One of the things that makes The Abbey a wonderful place to work is the passionate focus and interest on teaching and learning among colleagues.

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Parental involvement

Having parents fully involved in the life of the school and in the progress of their children is vital. It is at the heart of our ethos that sees every student celebrated.

Whether it is regular reporting on academic progress, sharing achievements or giving parents the opportunity to celebrate as a community – parental involvement is at the heart of The Abbey experience.

Junior School

Reporting

From nursery through to Year 6, the reporting system keeps all parents informed of progress. We have a reporting point every half-term. This might be a report against one of the attributes of The Abbey Learner Profile, a parents evening to discuss progress, or a workshop to see the learning happen around you.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents are welcome into school every single week of the year. There is an open coffee morning on Fridays. Parents are welcomed to form assemblies and drama productions. We run Saturday morning discovery sessions, to come in and explore and have fun alongside your children. The annual Fun Run is a major highlight and it all leads up to the summer Celebration Day, a huge party showcasing and celebrating all our students.

Senior School and Sixth Form

Reporting

We run six reporting points a year, one every half term. There’s a full report and parents’ evening every year, and then a range of other reporting systems, including grades and targets. As we move into examination years these begin to reflect grade outcomes so that students and parents know what trajectory they are on. In addition, parents are warmly invited to be in touch whenever they have queries about academic progress: we are committed to being as responsive as possible so that everyone feels confident.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents at the Senior School are warmly invited to the weekly coffee mornings, held at the Junior School but open to groups from all years. There are Heads’ Breakfasts and discussion evenings alongside the full range of concerts, fixtures and performances – some on site and some hosted at the wonderful South Street Arts Centre.

TAPS

The Abbey Parents Society (TAPS) plays a huge role in supporting the school and offering opportunities to connect and celebrate. There are events every term. The annual Candle-Lit Procession is a highlight and there have been movie screenings, quiz nights, BBQs and more. Year group parents also meet via TAPS for evenings out.


Senior School Workshops Second Hand Uniform Shop

Food

Food matters! School lunch is the heart of the day and should always be a highlight. Students also have access to a wide range of healthy snacks to keep them going.

At The Abbey we take food seriously. We spend a lot of time on our lunch offer to make sure it meets every students needs. We cater for halal and other dietary requirements and provide individual food choices as necessary to students with severe allergies and needs.

Junior School

Snacks are served every morning break and received with much enthusiasm! There are four choices at lunch every day and a range of treats and healthy puddings.

Senior School

The day starts with breakfast, served in the main dining room and the Sixth Form cafe at very reasonable prices. Tuck shop opens every morning break. At lunch food is served in the Lower School and Upper School Dining Rooms and Sixth Form centre. There are four options every day and a wonderful salad bar.

In the Sixth Form there is a kitchen for students to use and most importantly there is Nora’s Cafe. Nora keeps the Sixth Form and staff communities going! Hot drinks, delicious food and sheer sunshine is on offer every single day of the Week.

Bake sales

There is no better way to come together as a community and often to raise some money for good causes than around food! We run bake sales throughout the year and food is the centre of wonderful celebrations like Diversity Day, with students trying cuisine from all around the world.

Student snacks and birthday treats

Students may bring in snacks and birthday treats, in consultation with form teachers and tutors. Families should check carefully that no nuts are included in any snacks brought to school.

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Senior School Workshops Second Hand Uniform Shop

Uniform guide

Students wear a range of uniforms from when they start in the school in Nursery up to the end of Upper V (Year 11). In Sixth Form there is a flexible dress code in preparation for further study beyond.

School Uniform Code

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The Abbey IP (Ideas + Passion)

Parental involvement

Having parents fully involved in the life of the school and in the progress of their children is vital. It is at the heart of our ethos that sees every student celebrated.

Whether it is regular reporting on academic progress, sharing achievements or giving parents the opportunity to celebrate as a community – parental involvement is at the heart of The Abbey experience.

Reporting

We run six reporting points a year, one every half term. There’s a full report and parents’ evening every year, and then a range of other reporting systems, including grades and targets. As we move into examination years these begin to reflect grade outcomes so that students and parents know what trajectory they are on. In addition, parents are warmly invited to be in touch whenever they have queries about academic progress: we are committed to being as responsive as possible so that everyone feels confident.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents at the Senior School are warmly invited to the weekly coffee mornings, held at the Junior School but open to groups from all years. There are Heads’ Breakfasts and discussion evenings alongside the full range of concerts, fixtures and performances – some on site and some hosted at the wonderful South Street Arts Centre.

TAPS

The Abbey Parents Society (TAPS) plays a huge role in supporting the school and offering opportunities to connect and celebrate. There are events every term. The annual Candle-Lit Procession is a highlight and there have been movie screenings, quiz nights, BBQs and more. Year group parents also meet via TAPS for evenings out.


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Results and Destinations

Results and destinations

Outcomes matter, and the outcome that matters most is personal development. Wherever students go on to learn next, are they going with hope and optimism, ready to make the absolute most of everything that is on offer?

That’s what motivates us. High achievement on its own is not enough, and if it comes with anxiety, uncertainty and dread, then it is an active hindrance. We are here to support our students, find the right path for them and to walk it with joy in their hearts.

Junior School

We are always thinking about how to support our students with the right next step for them. We share their scores with parents from Year 4, to help make informed decisions. Throughout Year 5 and into Year 6 we meet every family to talk through the best choice for their daughter.

The majority of students choose The Abbey Senior School, and their success rate in open competition for academic, art, drama, music and sport scholarships is staggering. Others opt for boarding or the most competitive grammar school places. Our job is to help each family make the best decision for each child.

We do not believe that systematic tutoring brings children benefits and we believe that they would be outweighed in any case by the impact on their childhood and their sense of freedom. The best path through education is to work hard but in proportion and for each child to end up in the environment in which they can thrive.

Senior School

Students routinely take places in the most competitive UK and world universities. However, their interests are broad. Some students every year access the highest-level degree apprenticeships. Others go on to art foundation, drama school and other creative pathways.

We’re proud of our track record, but what we care about, and what brings every teacher so much reward, is each individual outcome. Whatever you want to do next, we are here to back you every step of the way.

The true test of outcomes are alumnae events. Each one is full of deeply impressive, genuine, warm and passionate adults working in hugely diverse fields. And each alumna has access to a lifelong network of support. An Abbey education supports outcomes far beyond tertiary choices.

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JOY

KINDNESS

Can pop songs inspire kindness? How can we be kinder to our planet? Is kindness an evolutionary trait?

Written by Abbey students, this publication celebrates their creativity of thought, passion for learning, and understanding of the world. Enjoy the read.


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Be kind wherever possible

What is ‘kindness’? The quality of being friendly, generous and considerate – essentially the recipe for being a good person. So, in what ways can people be kind?

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Biology - how kindness affects your brain

It is scientifically proven that kindness makes us happier and can help protect us from depression, but how and why? These are a few reasons…

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Can pop songs inspire kindness?

Most of the time pop music might be able to inspire kindness because most of the pop songs are quite positive and it makes people happier.

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Do you have to be kind to be successful in the workplace?

Kindness has sometimes been considered a weakness in the working world. The key to climbing the corporate ladder is portrayed as having a strong work ethic and emphasis on number-oriented goals, even at the expense of an enjoyable work environment and wellbeing.

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Enigma: Strategy vs Kindness

In the summer of July 1939, some men met in a wood outside of Warsaw. They were Polish, British and French, and had met to exchange the key to the Enigma code – the complex cipher which the Germans used to transmit their messages during World War II. Solving it, they felt, would win the war.

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How can we be kinder to our planet?

We can be kinder to our planet by trying not to use disposable plastic bottles and trying to reuse plastic bags. We should also try to recycle more and also instead of driving, try and use public transport, walk or cycle or anything else.

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How did Xenia encourage kindness amongst the Greeks?

Xenia is the Ancient Greek principle of hospitality, a concept far removed from our modern-day standards, but very much necessary in a world in which staying at an inn was fraught with danger of abduction, theft and even murder. Literally ‘guest-friendship’, ξενια is a moral obligation demanding that shelter, gifts, food etc be granted to any stranger who asks for them, regardless of their background.

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How do we create kindness?

Kindness is contagious and something that benefits us all. Here are several ways you can show kindness every day.

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Inclusivity

Inclusivity demonstrates kindness by ensuring that people of all backgrounds and cultures are accepted in society. This makes others feel welcome in the community, in addition to recognising that others’ feelings, values, or opinions are valid.

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Is "kindness" a human construct?

“No act of kindness,” Aesop reminds us, “no matter how small, is ever wasted.” As a slave and storyteller living in Greece between 620 and 564 BCE, Aesop’s perception of kindness is particularly striking given his circumstances. Harsh living, cruel tasks and no chance of an independent future are hardly prospects conducive to compassion, and yet his reminder comes at a time when Greek philosophers embarked on the process of quantifying kindness. To quantify something, however, one needs a definition and this is much disputed. Google suggests that kindness is “the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.” However, I believe there are many problems with this definition.

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Is kindness an evolutionary trait?

Kindness puts a smile on people’s faces and brightens up their day. Despite the fact that the word ‘kindness’ didn’t emerge until the 14th century, kindness may be the most important evolutionary trait since bipedalism.

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Is kindness found in the myths and legends of the classical world?

The written word is the underlying force of change in our world, silently shaping our lives from cradle to grave. From Austen to Orwell, Darwin to Descartes, the power of the written word to expand our horizons, socially, politically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually provoking the individual, is undeniable.

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Is space exploration kind to our planet?

For over 60 years humans have been exploring the vastness of space, but is this exploration kind to the Earth? This passage will explore whether or not space exploration is kind to the planet by looking at its benefits and disadvantages.

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Kindness in music

I think kindness matters in music because I think that it is one of the core parts in making a team, an ensemble skill. Kindness breaks down barriers, aids communication and supports excellent relationships.

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Kindness or cruelty? The euthanasia debate

Euthanasia is an international issue, being a legally accepted procedure in countries such as Belgium and the Netherlands, yet still a controversy and an illegal act within the UK. Its essential role in medical ethics is always an important topic to consider: is it an act of kindness or is it simply cruel?

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Kindness playing in my ears

When approaching this article I thought about other music articles I have read, with lists of songs that reference joy, cities of the world or times of night. Nearly all of which mainly included songs from eras when I wasn’t alive, let alone knowing the ins and outs of the top 100 charts. So for this article, I have chosen to write about songs that I know best, from an era of music I am very much aware of and interested in. As well as this I am going to navigate through it in the best way I know…

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Playing as a team - why kindness matters

Kindness brings people together and builds stronger teams capable of overcoming challenges/obstacles faster and easier. Promoting kindness at work and at school builds trust and strong bonds amongst friends and colleagues.

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Elon Musk’s Starlink initiative: an act of kindness or a monopoly on technology?

Is Elon Musk’s Starlink initiative about kindness or money, power, and control? Starlink is a satellite constellation that aims to deliver global internet coverage. Elon Musk hopes that “Starlink will bring internet access to some 3 billion people who were previously unable to access the internet easily” and it currently provides service in 36 countries. Does this initiative come from the kindness of his heart or a motive to obtain money?

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The common language used around kindness

Modern foreign languages: a department that has always been relevant, interesting and evolving. Modern foreign languages are a diverse and exciting area that anyone can be a part of. Another thing that anyone can be part of is kindness.

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The interlace of kindness and duty

Some say that kindness is a language, known by humans all over the world and shared without a second thought. Others say that kindness is an obligation to humanity: if we’re not kind, then the entire world may collapse.

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The kindness of disasters – how humanity unites

We live in a world where disasters are now sadly a common event and not something we only read about in history books. Disasters take many forms, from worldwide pandemics such as Covid-19 to the aftermath of hurricanes, tsunamis and landslides that devastate life and the surrounding communities; terrorist attacks such as 9/11 and wars such as Afghanistan and the current war between Ukraine and Russia. Disasters can also be revealed over time: the recent World Cup highlighted the lack of basic human rights and liberties within many parts of our world through the loss of lives from poor working conditions in building the stadiums. However, if you look beyond the immediate aftermath of a disaster, there will always be stories of kindness and how the touch of human kindness provides strength and the ability for the human race to survive.

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The universality of the language of kindness

Languages: it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what one is, or to describe exactly what suffices as a language. We can simplify them into being some form, which communicates information from one person to another. However, the way in which different languages can be understood varies from form to form.

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What can sport teach you about being kind to yourself?

Sport is all about pushing yourself. You always have to find flaws, train as much as possible, and try to be perfect, otherwise you are failing. After all, no pain no gain, right? In my experience, this is wrong. Of course sport is about doing your best, but it doesn’t always have to be painful. In fact, one of the key lessons I have learned through sport is how to let kindness and compassion towards myself guide my progress as an athlete.

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What does kindness look like to you

Kindness is something we can’t see. It goes into the body. Like if someone is hurt you could pick them up and you could tell a teacher and if someone is stuck you can help them. I think it floats around like a red balloon, it bounces from one to another, it floats like a butterfly and that is what I think kindness is.

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What is the kindest invention?

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What is the kindest season?

The definition of the word ‘Kindness’, according to Oxford Languages’ Google dictionary, is ‘The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate’. Anything that is kind must contain this essential kindness which leads to my first question: what does kindness look like?

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When action follows heart

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When kindness prevails: what is the greatest story ever told?

Though there have been many extraordinary stories told, there are a few that really catch the eye. A story that I find extremely brave and kind is that of Araminta Ross, who we now know as Harriet Tubman. Harriet was born in 1822 to an enslaved family in Maryland, USA. She and her family were ‘owned’ by the Brodess family. During this time people thought that enslaved people were property they owned.

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Who is the kindest fictional character?

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Why are some people kinder than others?

The question ‘Why are some people kinder than others’ is a widely debated topic, and a very interesting one. This question has been the driving force behind many scientific studies, and in this article I hope to debunk some myths surrounding this.

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Why is art the kindest form of expression?

Art serves as a companion of comfort and distraction, a form of communication everyone can express. Art doesn’t necessarily require a particular skill: in fact it’s something anyone can participate in.

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Why is it kind to be internationally minded?

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Why is it kind to learn another language?

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Would we be kind to extraterrestrial life?

Is it more terrifying to be alone in this universe, or to be surrounded by extraterrestrial life? This very question and its branches has been perplexing both physicists and psychologists for many years. When most people think of extraterrestrial life, they think of little green men. Although this statement is highly ambiguous, we humans have hammered this image into our heads.

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