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Parental involvement

Having parents fully involved in the life of the school and in the progress of their children is vital. It is at the heart of our ethos that sees every student celebrated.

Whether it is regular reporting on academic progress, sharing achievements or giving parents the opportunity to celebrate as a community – parental involvement is at the heart of The Abbey experience.

Junior School

Reporting

From nursery through to Year 6, the reporting system keeps all parents informed of progress. We have a reporting point every half-term. This might be a report against one of the attributes of The Abbey Learner Profile, a parents evening to discuss progress, or a workshop to see the learning happen around you.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents are welcome into school every single week of the year. There is an open coffee morning on Fridays. Parents are welcomed to form assemblies and drama productions. We run Saturday morning discovery sessions, to come in and explore and have fun alongside your children. The annual Fun Run is a major highlight and it all leads up to the summer Celebration Day, a huge party showcasing and celebrating all our students.

Senior School and Sixth Form

Reporting

We run six reporting points a year, one every half term. There’s a full report and parents’ evening every year, and then a range of other reporting systems, including grades and targets. As we move into examination years these begin to reflect grade outcomes so that students and parents know what trajectory they are on. In addition, parents are warmly invited to be in touch whenever they have queries about academic progress: we are committed to being as responsive as possible so that everyone feels confident.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents at the Senior School are warmly invited to the weekly coffee mornings, held at the Junior School but open to groups from all years. There are Heads’ Breakfasts and discussion evenings alongside the full range of concerts, fixtures and performances – some on site and some hosted at the wonderful South Street Arts Centre.

TAPS

The Abbey Parents Society (TAPS) plays a huge role in supporting the school and offering opportunities to connect and celebrate. There are events every term. The annual Candle-Lit Procession is a highlight and there have been movie screenings, quiz nights, BBQs and more. Year group parents also meet via TAPS for evenings out.


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Food

Food matters! School lunch is the heart of the day and should always be a highlight. Students also have access to a wide range of healthy snacks to keep them going.

At The Abbey we take food seriously. We spend a lot of time on our lunch offer to make sure it meets every students needs. We cater for halal and other dietary requirements and provide individual food choices as necessary to students with severe allergies and needs.

Junior School

Snacks are served every morning break and received with much enthusiasm! There are four choices at lunch every day and a range of treats and healthy puddings.

Senior School

The day starts with breakfast, served in the main dining room and the Sixth Form cafe at very reasonable prices. Tuck shop opens every morning break. At lunch food is served in the Lower School and Upper School Dining Rooms and Sixth Form centre. There are four options every day and a wonderful salad bar.

In the Sixth Form there is a kitchen for students to use and most importantly there is Nora’s Cafe. Nora keeps the Sixth Form and staff communities going! Hot drinks, delicious food and sheer sunshine is on offer every single day of the Week.

Bake sales

There is no better way to come together as a community and often to raise some money for good causes than around food! We run bake sales throughout the year and food is the centre of wonderful celebrations like Diversity Day, with students trying cuisine from all around the world.

Student snacks and birthday treats

Students may bring in snacks and birthday treats, in consultation with form teachers and tutors. Families should check carefully that no nuts are included in any snacks brought to school.

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Uniform guide

Students wear a range of uniforms from when they start in the school in Nursery up to the end of Upper V (Year 11). In Sixth Form there is a flexible dress code in preparation for further study beyond.

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Parental involvement

Having parents fully involved in the life of the school and in the progress of their children is vital. It is at the heart of our ethos that sees every student celebrated.

Whether it is regular reporting on academic progress, sharing achievements or giving parents the opportunity to celebrate as a community – parental involvement is at the heart of The Abbey experience.

Reporting

We run six reporting points a year, one every half term. There’s a full report and parents’ evening every year, and then a range of other reporting systems, including grades and targets. As we move into examination years these begin to reflect grade outcomes so that students and parents know what trajectory they are on. In addition, parents are warmly invited to be in touch whenever they have queries about academic progress: we are committed to being as responsive as possible so that everyone feels confident.

Sharing and celebrating

Parents at the Senior School are warmly invited to the weekly coffee mornings, held at the Junior School but open to groups from all years. There are Heads’ Breakfasts and discussion evenings alongside the full range of concerts, fixtures and performances – some on site and some hosted at the wonderful South Street Arts Centre.

TAPS

The Abbey Parents Society (TAPS) plays a huge role in supporting the school and offering opportunities to connect and celebrate. There are events every term. The annual Candle-Lit Procession is a highlight and there have been movie screenings, quiz nights, BBQs and more. Year group parents also meet via TAPS for evenings out.


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Results and Destinations

Results and destinations

Outcomes matter, and the outcome that matters most is personal development. Wherever students go on to learn next, are they going with hope and optimism, ready to make the absolute most of everything that is on offer?

That’s what motivates us. High achievement on its own is not enough, and if it comes with anxiety, uncertainty and dread, then it is an active hindrance. We are here to support our students, find the right path for them and to walk it with joy in their hearts.

Junior School

We are always thinking about how to support our students with the right next step for them. We share their scores with parents from Year 4, to help make informed decisions. Throughout Year 5 and into Year 6 we meet every family to talk through the best choice for their daughter.

The majority of students choose The Abbey Senior School, and their success rate in open competition for academic, art, drama, music and sport scholarships is staggering. Others opt for boarding or the most competitive grammar school places. Our job is to help each family make the best decision for each child.

We do not believe that systematic tutoring brings children benefits and we believe that they would be outweighed in any case by the impact on their childhood and their sense of freedom. The best path through education is to work hard but in proportion and for each child to end up in the environment in which they can thrive.

Senior School

Students routinely take places in the most competitive UK and world universities. However, their interests are broad. Some students every year access the highest-level degree apprenticeships. Others go on to art foundation, drama school and other creative pathways.

We’re proud of our track record, but what we care about, and what brings every teacher so much reward, is each individual outcome. Whatever you want to do next, we are here to back you every step of the way.

The true test of outcomes are alumnae events. Each one is full of deeply impressive, genuine, warm and passionate adults working in hugely diverse fields. And each alumna has access to a lifelong network of support. An Abbey education supports outcomes far beyond tertiary choices.

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KINDNESS

Can pop songs inspire kindness? How can we be kinder to our planet? Is kindness an evolutionary trait?

Written by Abbey students, this publication celebrates their creativity of thought, passion for learning, and understanding of the world. Enjoy the read.


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Be kind wherever possible

What is ‘kindness’? The quality of being friendly, generous and considerate – essentially the recipe for being a good person. So, in what ways can people be kind?

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Biology - how kindness affects your brain

It is scientifically proven that kindness makes us happier and can help protect us from depression, but how and why? These are a few reasons…

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Can pop songs inspire kindness?

Most of the time pop music might be able to inspire kindness because most of the pop songs are quite positive and it makes people happier.

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Do you have to be kind to be successful in the workplace?

Kindness has sometimes been considered a weakness in the working world. The key to climbing the corporate ladder is portrayed as having a strong work ethic and emphasis on number-oriented goals, even at the expense of an enjoyable work environment and wellbeing.

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Enigma: Strategy vs Kindness

In the summer of July 1939, some men met in a wood outside of Warsaw. They were Polish, British and French, and had met to exchange the key to the Enigma code – the complex cipher which the Germans used to transmit their messages during World War II. Solving it, they felt, would win the war.

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How can we be kinder to our planet?

We can be kinder to our planet by trying not to use disposable plastic bottles and trying to reuse plastic bags. We should also try to recycle more and also instead of driving, try and use public transport, walk or cycle or anything else.

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How did Xenia encourage kindness amongst the Greeks?

Xenia is the Ancient Greek principle of hospitality, a concept far removed from our modern-day standards, but very much necessary in a world in which staying at an inn was fraught with danger of abduction, theft and even murder. Literally ‘guest-friendship’, ξενια is a moral obligation demanding that shelter, gifts, food etc be granted to any stranger who asks for them, regardless of their background.

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How do we create kindness?

Kindness is contagious and something that benefits us all. Here are several ways you can show kindness every day.

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Inclusivity

Inclusivity demonstrates kindness by ensuring that people of all backgrounds and cultures are accepted in society. This makes others feel welcome in the community, in addition to recognising that others’ feelings, values, or opinions are valid.

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Is "kindness" a human construct?

“No act of kindness,” Aesop reminds us, “no matter how small, is ever wasted.” As a slave and storyteller living in Greece between 620 and 564 BCE, Aesop’s perception of kindness is particularly striking given his circumstances. Harsh living, cruel tasks and no chance of an independent future are hardly prospects conducive to compassion, and yet his reminder comes at a time when Greek philosophers embarked on the process of quantifying kindness. To quantify something, however, one needs a definition and this is much disputed. Google suggests that kindness is “the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.” However, I believe there are many problems with this definition.

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Is kindness an evolutionary trait?

Kindness puts a smile on people’s faces and brightens up their day. Despite the fact that the word ‘kindness’ didn’t emerge until the 14th century, kindness may be the most important evolutionary trait since bipedalism.

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Is kindness found in the myths and legends of the classical world?

The written word is the underlying force of change in our world, silently shaping our lives from cradle to grave. From Austen to Orwell, Darwin to Descartes, the power of the written word to expand our horizons, socially, politically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually provoking the individual, is undeniable.

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Is space exploration kind to our planet?

For over 60 years humans have been exploring the vastness of space, but is this exploration kind to the Earth? This passage will explore whether or not space exploration is kind to the planet by looking at its benefits and disadvantages.

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Kindness in music

I think kindness matters in music because I think that it is one of the core parts in making a team, an ensemble skill. Kindness breaks down barriers, aids communication and supports excellent relationships.

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Kindness or cruelty? The euthanasia debate

Euthanasia is an international issue, being a legally accepted procedure in countries such as Belgium and the Netherlands, yet still a controversy and an illegal act within the UK. Its essential role in medical ethics is always an important topic to consider: is it an act of kindness or is it simply cruel?

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Kindness playing in my ears

When approaching this article I thought about other music articles I have read, with lists of songs that reference joy, cities of the world or times of night. Nearly all of which mainly included songs from eras when I wasn’t alive, let alone knowing the ins and outs of the top 100 charts. So for this article, I have chosen to write about songs that I know best, from an era of music I am very much aware of and interested in. As well as this I am going to navigate through it in the best way I know…

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Playing as a team - why kindness matters

Kindness brings people together and builds stronger teams capable of overcoming challenges/obstacles faster and easier. Promoting kindness at work and at school builds trust and strong bonds amongst friends and colleagues.

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Elon Musk’s Starlink initiative: an act of kindness or a monopoly on technology?

Is Elon Musk’s Starlink initiative about kindness or money, power, and control? Starlink is a satellite constellation that aims to deliver global internet coverage. Elon Musk hopes that “Starlink will bring internet access to some 3 billion people who were previously unable to access the internet easily” and it currently provides service in 36 countries. Does this initiative come from the kindness of his heart or a motive to obtain money?

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The common language used around kindness

Modern foreign languages: a department that has always been relevant, interesting and evolving. Modern foreign languages are a diverse and exciting area that anyone can be a part of. Another thing that anyone can be part of is kindness.

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The interlace of kindness and duty

Some say that kindness is a language, known by humans all over the world and shared without a second thought. Others say that kindness is an obligation to humanity: if we’re not kind, then the entire world may collapse.

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The kindness of disasters – how humanity unites

We live in a world where disasters are now sadly a common event and not something we only read about in history books. Disasters take many forms, from worldwide pandemics such as Covid-19 to the aftermath of hurricanes, tsunamis and landslides that devastate life and the surrounding communities; terrorist attacks such as 9/11 and wars such as Afghanistan and the current war between Ukraine and Russia. Disasters can also be revealed over time: the recent World Cup highlighted the lack of basic human rights and liberties within many parts of our world through the loss of lives from poor working conditions in building the stadiums. However, if you look beyond the immediate aftermath of a disaster, there will always be stories of kindness and how the touch of human kindness provides strength and the ability for the human race to survive.

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The universality of the language of kindness

Languages: it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what one is, or to describe exactly what suffices as a language. We can simplify them into being some form, which communicates information from one person to another. However, the way in which different languages can be understood varies from form to form.

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What can sport teach you about being kind to yourself?

Sport is all about pushing yourself. You always have to find flaws, train as much as possible, and try to be perfect, otherwise you are failing. After all, no pain no gain, right? In my experience, this is wrong. Of course sport is about doing your best, but it doesn’t always have to be painful. In fact, one of the key lessons I have learned through sport is how to let kindness and compassion towards myself guide my progress as an athlete.

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What does kindness look like to you

Kindness is something we can’t see. It goes into the body. Like if someone is hurt you could pick them up and you could tell a teacher and if someone is stuck you can help them. I think it floats around like a red balloon, it bounces from one to another, it floats like a butterfly and that is what I think kindness is.

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What is the kindest invention?

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What is the kindest season?

The definition of the word ‘Kindness’, according to Oxford Languages’ Google dictionary, is ‘The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate’. Anything that is kind must contain this essential kindness which leads to my first question: what does kindness look like?

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When action follows heart

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When kindness prevails: what is the greatest story ever told?

Though there have been many extraordinary stories told, there are a few that really catch the eye. A story that I find extremely brave and kind is that of Araminta Ross, who we now know as Harriet Tubman. Harriet was born in 1822 to an enslaved family in Maryland, USA. She and her family were ‘owned’ by the Brodess family. During this time people thought that enslaved people were property they owned.

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Who is the kindest fictional character?

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Why are some people kinder than others?

The question ‘Why are some people kinder than others’ is a widely debated topic, and a very interesting one. This question has been the driving force behind many scientific studies, and in this article I hope to debunk some myths surrounding this.

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Why is art the kindest form of expression?

Art serves as a companion of comfort and distraction, a form of communication everyone can express. Art doesn’t necessarily require a particular skill: in fact it’s something anyone can participate in.

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Why is it kind to be internationally minded?

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Why is it kind to learn another language?

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Would we be kind to extraterrestrial life?

Is it more terrifying to be alone in this universe, or to be surrounded by extraterrestrial life? This very question and its branches has been perplexing both physicists and psychologists for many years. When most people think of extraterrestrial life, they think of little green men. Although this statement is highly ambiguous, we humans have hammered this image into our heads.

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Student leadership and choice

Leaders who listen

At The Abbey, leadership is built on listening. Staff and student leaders aim to consult their peers and build consensus on the way ahead.

Everyone looking back at their own school days will have such clear memories of what worked well and what didn’t. Getting students involved in how school works is a wonderful experience for them. It empowers them to feel ownership over their own development. It also helps create the best and most fulfilling student experience.

At The Abbey, every form has a leader and representatives on councils looking at sustainability, diversity, food and more – a mix of the issues and the everyday experiences that shape how school feels. Student Council is led by the Head Girls and engages in a dialogue with the leadership of the school.

At the top of the Junior School and in the Sixth Form the majority of students have their own specific leadership roles. There are Head Girls and deputies, House captains and leaders in sport, drama, music and art – but there is such a wide range besides. Students get involved in organising alumna events, liaising with younger years and the Junior School, marketing, science, digital innovation – any aspect of school life that interests them and helps them gain experience.

Every student in Years 5, 6, 7, 9, 11 and 12 meets with the Head every year in small groups to share their ideas on the development of the school.

Choice in learning

The Abbey probably offers the most choice and personalisation of any school. It is all built around our Abbey Learner Profile.

We want every Abbey student to be a thinker, inquirer, communicator and risk-taker: that’s why these qualities are the heart of our profile. We want girls to own their learning: not just to excel in tasks they’ve been given, but to break ground themselves.

At the Junior School, our Human Intelligence curriculum puts students as independent inquirers at its heart. They learn how to ask the right questions, and what to do with the answers. Year 6 culminates in an exhibition of learning where students create and curate exhibits about their passions and what investigating them has taught them.

At the Senior School, students start making their own curriculum choices from Year 7. They can select two or three from a range of languages. They can explore which creative subjects works best for them. By the time they pick GCSEs they are familiar with leading their own learning.

At the top of the school, every student chooses A Levels or the IB Diploma Programme. The IB route offers six subjects, Creativity, Activity and Service, Theory of Knowledge and independent work. The A Level route offers three or four subjects, an Extended Project Qualification, the Abbey Award and much more. Read more about the Sixth Form here.

The House system

All students are members of one of our four houses:

  • Carrington
  • Ducat
  • Kensington
  • Paget

Houses don’t just offer leadership roles: they offer the chance to get to know students across year groups in whole new ways. Students collaborate in projects and take part in activities. Alumnae remember and cheer on their house forever!


 

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Why all-girls?

Real-world preparation

There are so many advantages to an all-girls education, some of them more important than ever. But the most important benefit is the way it supports girls to live life on their own terms. Research suggests that graduates from all-girls education are more assertive and assured in mixed company than co-ed peers. They know that their voices matter and will be heard: so that is how they live their lives.

Freedom

What’s obvious in all great all-girls environments is the freedom students feel to be who they are. In the absence of the gendered gaze, girls flourish. What makes all-girls environments special is the way everyone acts as if they are at home. They are funny, creative, silly, brilliant, supportive. They are themselves.

It’s also well-established that girls choose their own paths more freely and are more likely to take risks and innovate in all-girls settings. Nothing is gendered. Ask an Abbey student whether some subjects or activities suit girls more than others and they are genuinely puzzled. Why on earth would they? Why shouldn’t anyone choose to do exactly what they want?

That isn’t the experience for everyone. Across the country, only around 13% of entries to A-level Physics are girls, yet they secure around 25% of the top grades.

At The Abbey girls choose whatever they want, and are supported to fulfil their potential. There’s just more room to breathe and to live with freedom.

Outcomes

Girls do better in all-girls education. League tables, flawed as they are, tell this story loud and clear. All-girls schools help their students succeed. The old criticism of hot-housing is a mile off the mark. Girls’ schools are about enthusiasm, authenticity, and taking part. In that climate, girls excel.

Leadership

Schools offer so many student leadership positions. In all-girls environments, this makes female leadership the natural and expected way of things. And the style of that leadership is dynamic, collaborative and supportive. It’s the kind of leadership business and society need.

Lifelong support

Every alumna of The Abbey has access to our careers network – lifelong. It includes women in every industry and profession, all of them passionate about fair representation and mutual support. In all-girls schools, girls forge friendships that often last their whole lives. The experience our girls have at school will continue to bring them benefit far into their futures.

Justice

Girls continue to experience injustice in the co-educational system. Studies show that girls receive 30% less teacher attention than boys: it is assumed they will just get on with it. Girls are also under-represented in co-educational independent schools. Because the UK has the largest and most successful all-girls system in the world, girls in independent co-education make up only 45% of the cohort, leading to a further in-built skew towards boys.

Negative gender attitudes start from the earliest days of primary school. Over a third of primary school teachers report witnessing stereotyping on a weekly basis. And when the chair of a parliamentary sub-committee investigating attitudes to women and girls at school asked, in 2023, how many girls experienced harassment, the answer was stark: ‘every single one of them, and for most it had happened in school’.

This isn’t good enough. We all know that the world girls go into was not designed equally. It is changing, but not fast enough. We believe every girl deserves to experience an environment designed with their interests in mind, so that they expect, and help to shape, an environment that is fair for all. That’s what The Abbey is for.

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The Girls’s Schools Association, Girls’ Day School Trust, and International Coalition of Girls’ Schools all have more information on the research-backed benefits of all-girls education.

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